30 years
My parents were once complete strangers. They had no idea the rest of their lives from senior year of high school on when they met, their lives would forever change. Now, this sounds very corny, but its one hundred percent true to their story together. My parents have been married together now for 30 years. Its not valid to say that all these years its been smooth sailing because it has not been nearly that. They disagree on a multitude of things but at the same time find themselves agreeing as well. Whats interesting to say is that not one of their arguments have broken them apart. Usually when they disagree, being a third party outside, peering in, they both usually hold very strong arguments I honestly never know which side to take. They don't ask me to take sides, rather they want me knowing nothing of their arguments usually unless the argument pertains to everyone in the immediate family meaning me and my brother and them.
I wonder how my family has managed to stick together through such hardship. My brother was once giving me advice and he had said family is the ultimate receptor. And I really feel the same way as him, that family will always be my receptor, however I know people that would disagree and say that this is not true for them. I don't know the exact chemistry as to why my immediate family has stuck together so beautifully, but I can imagine it has something to do with how honest we are with one another in my house. No matter what has to be said, everyone in my family is ready to listen and respond honestly. I feel as though this honesty embedded in my family had to have started all with the type of honesty I see between my mom and my dad. They don't beat around the bush, they are good communicators and this leads me to think this has made me and my brother good communicators as well.
I think in this project I will explore each point of view from my brothers, my dads and my mom's perspective on our family and how they think it manages and works, or how sometimes it doesn't and how we overcome these things. Through a series of questions and stories told by them I hope to find out from them how they think we are all different but how we manage to come together as one always in the end.I think the three of them will bring me much insight into the depths of our intertwined relationships. Being at school, I have come to realize how much of my family is within me. I think this project will teach me even more about myself.
I wonder how my family has managed to stick together through such hardship. My brother was once giving me advice and he had said family is the ultimate receptor. And I really feel the same way as him, that family will always be my receptor, however I know people that would disagree and say that this is not true for them. I don't know the exact chemistry as to why my immediate family has stuck together so beautifully, but I can imagine it has something to do with how honest we are with one another in my house. No matter what has to be said, everyone in my family is ready to listen and respond honestly. I feel as though this honesty embedded in my family had to have started all with the type of honesty I see between my mom and my dad. They don't beat around the bush, they are good communicators and this leads me to think this has made me and my brother good communicators as well.
I think in this project I will explore each point of view from my brothers, my dads and my mom's perspective on our family and how they think it manages and works, or how sometimes it doesn't and how we overcome these things. Through a series of questions and stories told by them I hope to find out from them how they think we are all different but how we manage to come together as one always in the end.I think the three of them will bring me much insight into the depths of our intertwined relationships. Being at school, I have come to realize how much of my family is within me. I think this project will teach me even more about myself.
Okay, I like that you've stuck with your obsession, but I have a few suggestions (based on your previous post about this). First, let's see how we can make this more manageable. I don't know how reasonable it is for you to interview your entire family to get at why/how relationships work, though I am curious to know how your mom and dad have managed. You hinted in your previous post that they may have gone through some difficult times (what marriage hasn't) and I wonder if you would feel comfortable asking your mom and/or dad about how they got through those challenges. The other thing I was really interested in from your previous post is if you've ever questioned this idea that you must be with someone else to be happy. Your common thread in this blog is that you know you get preoccupied with boys, and you said in your previous post that you often don't like the boys who like you. Do you have idea about why this is? Would you be interested in exploring it? See, I think this idea that we need to be coupled up is myth in many ways. As you mentioned in your other post, there are many, many unhappy marriages, and that could be that culturally and socially, we are insistent that marriage will fix many things. In fact, marriage often creates an entirely new set of challenges. I'd be interested in your exploring what is good about being single, because i think we ignore those benefits too much. But, whatever you decide to do, make sure you are combining both your conversations with your family along with your own observations and insights, which you will get to through writing and thinking about it.
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